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Time to Run: The Power of the Amygdala
A member on the psychcafe forum, Closed Doors (CD), started a discussion about what dependency on your therapist means. In the course of the discussion, I ended up writing a formula for what happens...
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Disruption and Rage Part I
TW*** CSA, rage and really bad language Well, I think I have hidden in my cave long enough and its time to poke my head out and talk about what is going on with me. I am most of the way through a four...
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Disruption and Rage Part II
TW*** CSA, rage and really bad language For the first part, see Disruption and Rage Part I. NOTE: I have really appreciated everyone reading and all the supportive comments. I am planning on replying...
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Backfire
We got back today after dropping my younger daughter off at college. I am finishing up a 12 day break from work that was a complete whirlwind. I had a nerve block, did a three-day trip to NYC, a block...
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Quick Disruption Update
This will be followed with a (much!) longer and more detailed post, but didn’t want to keep anyone in suspense. It was a really good session in terms of the work that got done and reconnecting,...
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The Repair Part I
I am back with the promised account of my last session. This post is the first of two (it got REALLY long). It was a very long, very intense session, so I’ll do my best to describe what happened. As in...
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The Repair Part II
This is the second part of a two-part series, for the first part see The Repair Part I. I ended the last post having just done a bag up job of expressing my anger at BN. I told him that it had felt...
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Therapist’s Self-Disclosure
Ran across a great article on the web by a therapist who specializes in training other therapist’s about self-disclosure in therapy and thought other people might find it interesting also: Think Before...
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Coping with Grief and Abandonment Part I
GE asked the question below on the Ask AG page: im wondering if you are wiling to share some of the strategies you used to cope with grief and abandonment feelings when things got rough during your...
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Coping with Grief and Abandonment Part II
This is the second post in a two-part series on Grief and Abandonment, see Coping with Grief and Abandonment Part I. I’m sure it will not surprise any regular reader of this blog to realize that BN was...
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Reliving the Shame
I just had a deep insight into shame (which I suspect is going to sound D’oh when I say it) that I want to write down before I forget. I have been doing some rather intense work in therapy lately,...
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I’m two years old!!
Well, ok I’m not two years old, but Tales of a Boundary Ninja is (and don’t think I can’t hear you saying “but sometimes you act like a two year old.” ) As you can see below, I’m getting a little more...
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Hiatus
Greetings all, I am currently facing a difficult family situation while also facing a looming deadline at work, so I will be absent for a bit. I’m not sure how long but hope it’s not longer than a few...
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Peeking out of the Cave
Greetings Gentle Readers, I have missed you all. This break has stretched longer than I anticipated. The situation that precipitated my hiatus is ongoing, but things are much more stable. Of course...
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Everyone Has Closets
I just finished watching Ash Beckham’s talk at TEDx and had to share it. I thought this was a wonderful, impassioned plea to treat both ourselves and others with compassion and empathy. I really...
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In Conflict
In Conflict. Martha Crawford, of What a Shrink Thinks, hits another one out of the park (and once again engenders deep envy in me for her writing abilities and insight)! If you have ever struggled with...
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So, how am I doing?
Cat’s Meow (of Living while Healing. If you haven’t read her yet, do so. She writes with incredible honesty and insight.) asked how I was doing in a comment. I started to answer her but it got so long,...
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Instructions for a Bad Day
Having a bad day? Watch this. Come to think of it, watch it even if you’re not having a bad day. So much truth in it that we all need to work to hang on to; I know I had to work very hard to learn a...
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One Handed
Greetings Gentle Readers, Just wanted everyone to know that I will be a bit sidelined for the next few weeks. I am having a surgical procedure today on my right wrist for carpal tunnel. The procedure...
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Words of Wisdom
Words of wisdom are sometimes found in the oddest of places. A handwritten sticker on a trash can in Key West, FL: Having a lovely ( albeit one-handed! ) vacation! Looking forward to “seeing” everyone...
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